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Kink PTSD is more common than you would expect. It’s the difficulty a person has playing with vulnerability and surrender after that trust was disrespected. Whether it was callousness, a consent accident or inexperience, the hurt is the same. This experience can activate memories from past traumas, that may not be understood when it happens. Frequently those having difficulty with a Kink experience are blamed or marginalized. Reaching out for help can be a difficult thing to do. If you are having emotional or physical or spiritual injury after BDSM/Kink, it is not your fault, you are not alone, Remember it is not your fault, you deserve support.
The mission of HealthyShadow.Org is to promote fun, safe and rewarding Kink, effective aftercare, and awareness of when Kink is real abuse.
Dismissive comments make moving past the trauma more difficult. If you hear comments that dismiss your experience, that it is your fault that it happened, that your not a good player, that you had problems to begin with or they try to silence and isolate you, it is a red flag. Those comments are a second injury and is a common tactic to deflect responsibility.
Be aware that after the scene is over, the high induced t he scene may be followed a low and that low can be difficult. This is called a sub-drop. Be gentle with your self if that occurs. Abusive Kink is different, recovery is not like a sub-drop where your body and mind and spirit is returning to normal.
For more resources check out the site KEEPINGITKINKY.NET. The site is a treasure trove of articles on kink abuse and aftercare. Visit their site, contribute for the all volunteer grass roots effort to make BDSM/Kink safer and more fun.
Remember in the aftermath of abuse:
You will need support and connection,
Starting to play again takes Courage, Will, Strangth, and Power.
Techniques to help ease the energetic charge of trauma:
Tension Release Exercises (TRE®)
EMDR Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
Tapping EFT Emotional Freedom Technique
Reclaiming your kink
Kinky PTSD
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